'Toxic' relationship revealed in court

Joi Kopka described her daughter’s relationship with Kyle Christianson as tumultuous and something they all realized needed to end.
Becky Vargo
Jan 29, 2014

But Christianson blackmailed her daughter with talk of suicide, and the 18-year-old Grand Haven woman wouldn’t leave him because she was afraid he might act on his threats, her mother testified.

The testimony was given Tuesday during the first day of an Ottawa County Circuit Court bench trial before Judge Jon Hulsing.

Some of Kopka’s fears were realized the night of Aug. 27, 2013, when her daughter, Journey Kopka, disappeared for a couple of hours to talk to Christianson. She was only supposed to be gone for a few minutes, her mother said.

When her daughter returned a couple of hours later, sobbing and injured, Kopka called police and told them Journey had been kidnapped.

Christianson, 20, was arrested early the next morning. The Spring Lake man is now on trial for unlawful imprisonment and felonious assault. He has been jailed since Sept. 9, when his bond was raised from $15,000 to $50,000.

Journey Kopka testified that she was supposed to hang out with a friend that night, but agreed to meet Christianson to talk for a few minutes. Her mother said they were just sitting down to watch a television show when Journey stopped in and said she was going to meet Christianson to return some shirts and would be back in a few minutes. That was just after 9 p.m.

Forty-five minutes later, Joi Kopka said she started to get worried when her daughter hadn't returned. She tried calling and texting both her daughter and Christianson, but did not get a response, she said. Then she found her daughter’s phone in her bedroom and was “on high alert” because she knew her daughter wouldn’t be gone long without it.

When Journey’s friend arrived and said she didn’t know where Journey was, “that’s when it all started hitting home,” Joi Kopka said.

Family members started searching for Christianson’s car, first going to the places the young couple would normally go to talk. Joi Kopka's first call to 911 was at 10:19 p.m., but she decided not to talk to police until she had checked some locations. Kopka said she returned home 25 minutes later and called for help to locate her daughter.

In the meantime, Journey testified, she walked over to the Second Reformed Church parking lot, where she talked to Christianson. Journey said Christianson talked about being depressed and wanting to die.

“He kept talking about wanting to kill himself,” she said.

Journey said she became frustrated with the talk and started to walk away. That’s when Christianson came up behind her, grabbed her by the shoulders and dragged her back to his car, she testified.

“I was in shock," she said. "I was saying, ‘No, I don’t want to go.’ He said, ‘No, you’re going to listen. We’re going to talk about this.’”

Journey described him shoving her into the car like a police officer, and then he locked the doors and windows.

“That’s when the fear initially started to kick in,” she said.

Journey testified that they drove to Rycenga Park in Spring Lake Township, where she sat on the curb in the parking lot and listened to him “rant.”

During that time, Journey said she tried to come up with a plan to escape. She was able to get to the park's bathroom, but discovered there wasn’t a lock on the door, so she pretended she just had to go to the bathroom and went back outside.

Christianson then started playing with a box cutter he kept in the car, she testified. At one point, he put his hands on her throat and pressed until she was gasping for breath, she said.

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here is how the trial will end. . .the judge and kyle will be found sleeping together kyle clutching his probation order for first offender, our liberal judges are so sensitive to first offenders in their court rooms. . .another face book he and she relationship, ah the internet. . . .


Whoever bought you the computer for Christmas should really get a talking to.......

Barry Soetoro

lol....ahhhh....the trib comments.....


I would honestly like to see if this POS would cower when confronted by someone. He can get upset enough to hit and abuse a woman but I will bet he cries like a baby if a guy just pushed him. That is one of the few things that would set me off. If I saw any guy assaulting any woman, I would step in. Bet he would get loud but he wouldn't do a thing.



nice story, but i still dont believe the girl !!!


double post, sorry

concerned resident

I cannot believe this is happening, A person is assumed innocent until proven guilty in court. Well I think this cases needs to be looked at again by someone with less bias for this young man. The prosecuting attorney seems to be connected to the mother and daughter and has wasted the tax paying citizen of Ottawa County Money, setting up a case against this young man with 11 witnesses... none of which were in the vehicle that the alleged kidnapping took place. The case in now been in trial for two complete days and hopefully the judge will see that it was nothing more than a simple dispute between a boyfriend and girlfriend went wrong & STOP WASTING EVEN MORE TAX PAYER MONEY and let the guy go free.

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