Love thy neighbor

It’s time to get along better, folks!
Nov 4, 2013

What a better world and Tri-Cities there would be if love replaced hate and disrespect.

It is quite apparent that there doesn’t seem to be much love out there these days.

We see shootings and bullying in our schools. We see Republicans and Democrats lashing out at each other. We see “road rage” on our area streets and highways. We see people outraged with each other over where the Holiday Roads Light Show should go instead of trying to work together for a common solution.

And the list goes on.

We heard about "trickle-down economics” from Washington years ago, and more recently many of our leaders in the nation’s capital are trickling down hate and disrespect.

This can be harmful to your health as anger raises your blood pressure. It also affects how you treat others, including family members and co-workers you come in contact with later in the day.

It wasn’t always this way.

Much has been said about Republican President Ronald Reagan and Democratic House Speaker Tip O’Neill during the 1980s. The two political opposites could put aside their party differences at the end of the day and enjoy a drink together.

MSNBC’s “Hardball” host Chris Matthews’ book, “Tip and the Gipper: When Politics Worked,” which came out last month, goes a long way to explain Reagan and O’Neill’s friendship.

In Matthews’ book, former Reagan aide Max Friedersdorf recounts a scene from George Washington University Hospital following the assassination attempt on Reagan. O’Neill was one of the first people Reagan let visit him.

Friedersdorf said that when O’Neill entered Reagan’s hospital room, “He nodded my way and walked over to the bed and grasped both the president’s hands, and said, ‘God bless you, Mr. President.’ The president still seemed groggy … with lots of tubes and needles running in and out of his body. But when he saw Tip, he lit up and gave the speaker a big smile, and said, ‘Thanks for coming, Tip.’"

Then, still holding one of the president’s hands, the speaker got down on his knees and said he would like to offer a prayer for the president, choosing the 23rd Psalm.

That kind of relationship sends a huge message to all of us.

Years ago, you could have a friendship with someone and respect them even though the two of you didn’t totally agree on everything.

Today, it seems in so many cases, if you don’t agree, you lose respect for each other and actually become angry with one another.

We can learn about this relationship from the Bible. Jesus was asked which is the greatest commandment in the Law? He replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 37-39)

What great advice.

When the car ahead of you doesn’t go the second the light turns green, don’t lay on your horn. Really, are 1-2 seconds going to matter?

If you and a friend disagree, don’t become upset. Respect one another’s opinion.

There are bumper stickers around that read: “Love wins!” This probably refers to war vs. peace, but it could also refer to how we treat each other.

Love does win! Try it. Chances are, you’ll like it.

Our Views reflects the majority opinion of the members of the Grand Haven Tribune editorial board: Kevin Hook, Cheryl Welch, Matt DeYoung, Alex Doty and Fred VandenBrand. What do you think? E-mail us a letter to the editor to or log-in to our website and leave a comment below.



Thanks for posting this GH Tribune! I've been reading your comment sections often lately and have seen so much lashing out at one another. It's ridiculous. There's a difference to posting your views and some facts you've found, but there's no need to name call or tell people they're completely wrong.


"Love Wins" is a Rob Bell promo. Leave it to the Tribune and their crack research team to not know that.

Back to the Wall

Love wins.
It's a tennis thing. You wouldn't understand.


If you are supposed to be joking, then, no, I don't understand. Because Love is zero.

Back to the Wall

Yes, love IS zero - I've never understood it either.
And I'm not supposed to be joking.

So nice we can agree, neighbor!


Gravish you're back!


I won't even read the comments anymore. It's always the same 5 or 6 people with negative comments or trying to one up each other and using the Tribune as their platform.

Barry Soetoro

Too bad - you're really missing out. In fact, I was recently schooled that the New York Times is a reliable and unbiased source of news. I would have never known had it not been for the good people posting to the GHT comments.


Unbiased? My sarcasm detector just went off.


And we all know (and love, in deference to the Our View folks) what a hair trigger your sarcasm-o-meter has....


Ha! Damn, it just went off again! I need to turn the volume down on that thing, giving me a headache today. :-)


If you happen to be referring to one of my NY Times links, Barry, I am gratified that you learned something of value from my little tweets. Now - please, I'd love to say the same about yours. Any time now.....please, go right ahead....just trying to be kind and loving, not angry.....crickets....


Gee, hate to bring people into the reality community, but Chris Matthews book is B.S. about Chris Matthews and liberalism. For the real skinny, see: (Apparently, Tip didn't know Chris existed).

As a sidebar (1) Chris Matthews talks like he knows impoverished D.C. - he lives in Chevy Chase, 2nd most exclusive neighborhood of D.C. and never ventured where I lived or taught - he's a phony; and (2) apparently he missed the meeting where Tip directed his then democratic House of Representatives to fire all of the House Restaurant Workers because they tried to unionize - my boss was in there - I was in the next room.

If you believe politicians' B.S., like Obama on your former health insurance, you are simply another of their tools.


The best neighbor to have is the one you don't see or hear. I don't exactly invite them over for coffee. Not going to happen this week and next week don't look good either. Wave HI at them and that's enough. I've learned my lessons the hard way from my past. The minute you let them into your life only trouble precipitates. Best to keep your distance for self-preservation is your best bet.


Man, I thought I was a cynic. You win. Lani, make note of this...


Mark 12:30-31
30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.
The kind of love the Bible teaches works and "wins". Love thy Neighbor as thy self is more about loving them enough to offer example and loving correction so they will live a righteous life and be blessed, not the emotional fuzzys we tend to call love. This kind of love requires more effort and venturing outside of the comfort zone.

deuce liti

What I think is sad is when people cling to one party or the other so vehemently as if the other party or president is any better. I was listening to NPR and a congressman was saying that neither party members will even sit together and have lunch during break. It's easier to hate each other when they don't know each other.

As a true Christian I don't vote and I'm so thankful for that. I see people place hope and money in a system that always fails them.

Greed and pride is your democracy now and it's cemented in with apathy. Good luck with that.


And just think, if everyone that felt your way about politics didn't vote, nothing will ever change. That is the biggest problem with our current democracy Deuce. It will never change as long as people like you sit back and watch from the shadows. How can we have power of the people when The people do nothing? Think about it, it's attitude like that that will drag this country further down. And don't you dare say that it's because your a true Christian. I am a Christian and have been all my life and never once has anyone ever told me that because I am a christian that I shouldn't vote. If you don't vote, you have no place to complain.

deuce liti

Let me guess, you're also praying to God that man can cure cancer and stop death too?


And that is your response?

deuce liti

Yeah it is. It shows that as a christian you should know that mankind cannot solve man's problems.

Haven't you ever thought about the fact that Jesus didn't even know when God was going to end this system of things, but that God has a day set?

That when Jesus was healing people and resurrecting the dead he said not to marvel at this because it was a taste of things to come?
He said to obey God as ruler rather than man because this will all end and paradise on earth will be restored.

So you can't change man's imperfect rule. That's why Jesus tells us to pray for God's kingdom to come and let God's will take place on Earth just like in heaven.

As a Christian you should know this and be aware of it. My not relying on politics shouldn't be a foreign idea to you.

You know, the reason Jesus was so filled with righteous indignation at his fellow jews and their leaders is because they didn't know who he was.

Had they been properly taught from the scrolls all the prophecies and signs of his arrival they would have recognized him and embraced him (another reason why he asked his apostles who the people are saying he is).

Instead the jewish leaders taught traditions and focused on rituals which is why Jesus said that their traditions invalidate the word of God.

Your church does not teach who Jesus is still nor how to pattern your life to God's word. After all, to be a Christian means to follow after Christ.

So when I asked if you pray to God that there will be a cure for cancer, it shows that you think that eventually man will solve all his own problems.

Remember the meek will inherit the earth and they rejoice in their abundance of peace.

And it won't be because we finally voted for the right people.


Okay, for one I never answered your question. I simply answered with a question. If you want to get into it though.

Romans 13 1-7 reads, Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God's servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God's wrath on the wrongdoer. Therefore one must be in subjection, not only to avoid God's wrath but also for the sake of conscience.

The Book of 1st Peter, Be subject for the Lord's sake to every human institution, whether it be to the emperor as supreme, or to governors as sent by him to punish those who do evil and to praise those who do good. For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people. Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants of God. Honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor.

C'mon man you don't want to play this game with me. My Church and my family raised me to follow the Word of God and to implement every aspect into my life. I also do pray for healing of the sick and, besides by miracle, I do believe it will be man. I believe that everything that happens is God's will. I believe that God will guide the hand of man, if it is not meant to be then it will not happen.

deuce liti

Romans 13 1-7 reads, Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God..."

-yes, God has allowed man to rule himself, but what these scriptures are saying is that we need to mind man's law until it goes against God.

Acts 5:27 says, "We must obey God as ruler rather than men."

This is because if you put a person in power you are guilty of what they do or don't do. If they vote for abortion or don't change it, whatever it is you've had a hand in their corruption.

If there was a war draft would you sit in prison as a conscientious objector? Remember Jesus also said to love your enemy and pray for him.

You have to look at all the scriptures to understand the harmony of what God wants us to understand about him because: "for there will be a period of time when they will not put up with the healthful teaching, but, in accord with their own desires, they will accumulate teachers for themselves to have their ears tickled, and they will turn their ears away from the truth." (2 Timothy 4:3,4)

Also, you didn't comment on what I said about God ending this all and paradise being restored. Doesn't it make sense that God wants us to be politically neutral and obedient to all those in authority until He is finished with this wicked system of things?

I mean, how can you quote scripture to try to prove a point, but then ignore the rest of the bible which shows his will for us and the earth?

You said: " I believe that everything that happens is God's will. I believe that God will guide the hand of man, if it is not meant to be then it will not happen."

-so it's God's will that children die and parents suffer? What about when nations go to war and Christians kill Christians?

God is giving us a chance to change our life around and live for him out of love, not by traditions or I'll just repent later. Because it will end. Remember Jesus said it would. Revelation shows what will happen to false religion including false Christianity.

So yeah, I don't think my not voting is the problem. I stand by it with true faith. That is what faith is:

"Faith is the assured expectation of things hoped for, the evident demonstration of realities though not beheld."


I'm not a Christian and I vote the crap outta stuff!


Its hard to do that when that property tax bill keeps coming in twice a year! Even when your old and have no job to pay it. It keeps coming in the mail. And then people vote in mileage increases.

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