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We can make this a better world

By Alicia Hager
May 28, 2020
May 28, 2020 Updated Dec 1, 2020
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Almost sixteen years ago, I was banging down the doors of the OB ward at Munson Medical Center in Traverse City. I hadn’t realized that the baby I’d just given birth to would be immediately left with me.

I longed to go home, where my mom and sister waited with beef stew and ready arms. They let me sleep, only waking me to nurse the baby. And I think that, all in all, that baby and I have bonded just fine.

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Rottweiler May 28, 2020 9:10pm

West Michigan tourist town privilege?...Really..,you are free to leave anytime.

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